Nice job John. I try very hard to get my girls to see the ways in which power cuts out others. Even in second grade there are kids who wield power in ways that define what is accepted and what isn't, and I ask my girls to think about what is it like to be on the other side of that definition, and how do you speak up when you are not okay with what is happening around you. I don't know how htat will impact them as they grow up, but i hope it will be part of their thought process.
The other thing I do is that I model asking for what I need in ways that are assertive and clear, but not aggressive. I don't always succeed, but I try hard. I want them to see how that is done, and see that they can speak up for their own needs.
hey brian - I think it's great that your modeling that power of voice...being assertive in getting needs met, or saying no when there's pressure from other adults to say yes (peer pressure doesn't go away, it just get's older), etc. That kind of modeling can also make for a great conversation with our daughters. Even just pointing out, for example, that it wasn't easy to leave a BBQ when all of your friends wanted you to stay, could be a powerful lesson in voice. Of course, moms are very influential in helping our daughters develop a voice of power... Stay tuned for part two on listening and the power of apologies... happy father's day! john
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Nice job John.
I try very hard to get my girls to see the ways in which power cuts out others. Even in second grade there are kids who wield power in ways that define what is accepted and what isn't, and I ask my girls to think about what is it like to be on the other side of that definition, and how do you speak up when you are not okay with what is happening around you. I don't know how htat will impact them as they grow up, but i hope it will be part of their thought process.
The other thing I do is that I model asking for what I need in ways that are assertive and clear, but not aggressive. I don't always succeed, but I try hard. I want them to see how that is done, and see that they can speak up for their own needs.
-Brian
hey brian - I think it's great that your modeling that power of voice...being assertive in getting needs met, or saying no when there's pressure from other adults to say yes (peer pressure doesn't go away, it just get's older), etc. That kind of modeling can also make for a great conversation with our daughters. Even just pointing out, for example, that it wasn't easy to leave a BBQ when all of your friends wanted you to stay, could be a powerful lesson in voice. Of course, moms are very influential in helping our daughters develop a voice of power...
Stay tuned for part two on listening and the power of apologies...
happy father's day!
john
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